Hayden Kho and his scandalous misdeeds
I never thought I would write about something as lame as Hayden Kho. He, of meteoric rise to fame, courtesy of erstwhile or still love partner Dr. Vicky Belo.
But with the upsurge of interests over his amateurish sex videos, one would want to look a bit deeply on the issue.
My colleagues watched ‘em, a friend dropped by my place to share the files, to her delight. I saw them too.
It’s no way better than 70’s porn but since Hayden became a man of interest to some movie fanatics, his bed ways also became an issue of national or international curiosity and scrutiny.
I despise how he treated women. No matter their own personal issues, my interest is their own welfare as women so projected by him as mere sex objects. Who knows all of Hayden’s fratmates have already seen them all. Dr Vicky’s included. Grrr.
Some men really don’t care whether or not they have a thing to show to the public for public delight, that is, all they want to do is document something, that is for them, another primal and carnal conquest.
I just hope the law will be used to the fullest extent to penalize Hayden Ko and that the likes of him will ultimately be punished. That the PRC will be true to their rules and guidelines and will ultimately revoke Kho’s license to practice the medical profession. On what ground, you might ask. Well, any professional for that matter who commits moral turpitude is a basis enough for revocation. Moral turpitude in this instance is taking a video footage of his sexual act with women who allegedly did not know that a camera has been in place to take the shots. Any man of this nature, that is to document his sexual activities and dalliances with women is bound to be psychologically unsound, not necessarily of psychotic nature, that would free him legal liabilities by virtue of legal competence while doing the act but the very act of perpetuating the video footage from one woman to the next may actually be a sign for a clinical disorder. I am just not sure if voyeurism vis-a-vis exhibitionism can also be considered.
Given his looks and his medical practice, it would not be difficult to lure women to his bed. The thing is, if he is allowed to go scot-free particularly without the necessary treatment, this sort of misdeed may happen again to other women, albeit a different methodology.
While this may be a presumption, certainly, it is good to look into the swarming cases of scandalous videos being passed where a number women are victimized and violated.
And certainly, these perpetrators must never be allowed to practice professionally, especially if their field is anything that has to do with caring for the health and welfare of the people.
Anyway, so much for the serious stuff. These are my thoughts and that of others’ I have heard of late, regarding the videos are:
1.Katrina dances very well.
2. Hayden is bad in singing
3. Hayden’s dick is not as proportionate to his tall frame. meaning, not long and big enough.
4. Maricar is very pretty and did not look less virginal, before the video was out.
5. Worthy to note however, is Maricar’s prowess in bed.
6. The video with that Brazilian woman is poorly shot.
7. The video with Katrina is dimly shot.
8. That video with Maricar is extremely lighted. Only goes to show that they must have been doing it a number of times that it became a habit. No lighting drama is required.
9. Hayden can be a giver in bed, a nice boy to be exact. He seem to know where to hit the spot, except he doesn’t know how to handle the boobs.
10. But there is something about him that makes me entertain another thought, that of sexual confusion. (why else would you need a proof of your sexual conquest?)
11. Is Hayden closet gay? Could this be a reason of his alleged personality disorder apart from his hunger for attention?
I am a lesbian, so it’s not even an issue about homophobia, it’s just that to me, identity issue is apparent.
Just a thought.
May 25, 2009 at 8:35 am
I agree with you! I’m a psychology student (but i’m not saying i’m good at this) and based on his behavior, there is a big possibility that he is a closet gay. Maybe something happened during his childhood days, that is very traumatic, in relation to his sexuality. Like for example, a man being punished, as a child, whenever he shows signs of gayness could grow up thinking that he will still be punished at present whenever he do so. or he could have guilt feelings of being gay so he has to prove himself that he is not. If Hayden didn’t experience any trauma during childhood, he could have these guilt feelings. Another thing is most people thinks he has a Narcissistic personality disorder, which, i think, is quite unsustainable but related. Yes he has behaviors ,DURING THE SEXUAL ACT, that seems to us like he thinks of himself as an adonis or a Godsent for women (something like that), BUT he has empathy after the act or when the videos came out. When here ex lovers where put into shame, he felt so sorry and he feels very guilty that he blames himself for everything that happened to them. Still…GUILT is present. I may not be good at explaining these things but what i’m saying here is that there is always a presence of guilt in all his acts, which is serious since this could lead him to self punishment…to the extent that he could commit suicide. One personality disorder that i can closely connect to his behavior is bipolar (manic-depressive)or Borderline personality disorder. Actually, borderline is the personality disorder while the other is the disorder itself. A person with BPD could have two extreme behaviors from time to time (ex. excessively happy to overly depressed) Most of them have obsession with a certain thing (if they want it, they want it) and if they are depressed, they are suicidal. If you can’t get my explanation (again, i’m not good at this) just read these symptoms of Borderline personality disorder.
a prolonged disturbance of personality function characterized by depth and variability of moods.[ The disorder typically involves unusual levels of instability in mood; "black and white" thinking, or "splitting"; chaotic and unstable interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior; as well as a disturbance in the individual's sense of self.
1. Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. [Not including suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5]
2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.
3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.
4. Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., promiscuous sex, eating disorders, binge eating, substance abuse, reckless driving). [Again, not including suicidal or self-injuring behavior covered in Criterion 5]
5. Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, threats or self-injuring behavior such as cutting, interfering with the healing of scars (excoriation) or picking at oneself.
6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).
7. Chronic feelings of emptiness, worthlessness.
8. Inappropriate anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).
9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation, delusions or severe dissociative symptoms
ANOTHER possibility is that he simply is a paraphiliac (sexual perversion)
Sexual perversions are conditions in which sexual excitement or orgasm is associated with acts or imagery that are considered unusual within the culture.A paraphilia is a condition in which a person’s sexual arousal and gratification depend on a fantasy theme of an unusual situation or object that becomes the principal focus of sexual behavior.
Paraphilias include fantasies, behaviors, and/or urges which:
* involve nonhuman sexual objects, such as shoes or undergarments
* require the suffering or humiliation of oneself or partner
* involve children or other non-consenting partners
The most common paraphilias are:
* exhibitionism, or exposure of the genitals
* fetishism, or the use of nonliving objects
* frotteurism, or touching and rubbing against a nonconsenting person
* pedophilia, or the focus on prepubescent children
* sexual masochism, or the receiving of humiliation or suffering
* sexual sadism, or the inflicting of humiliation or suffering
* transvestic fetishism, or cross-dressing
* voyeurism, or watching others engage in undressing or sexual activity
A paraphiliac often has more than one paraphilia. Paraphilias often result in a variety of associated problems, such as guilt, depression, shame, isolation, and impairment in the capacity for normal social and sexual relationships. A paraphilia can, and often does, become highly idiosyncratic and ritualized.
May 25, 2009 at 8:49 am
If Hayden is a Paraphiliac…he is surely an exhibitionist…if he is a closet gay (going back to where i agree with you) i think he should have counseling and he needs support from gays like him. Gays LIKE US, lesbians and lesbian lovers (present!!!) cannot help him because male gays have some different experiences so bird with the same feather, i believe, could understand each other…aryt?